Saturday, January 31, 2015

Choosing a strap-on dildo

Choosing a strap-on dildo

The crux of any harness and the very purpose of its existence is the strap-on; that's why we've included a quick dildo tutorial in this guide.
First off, you need to ascertain that any dongs you purchase are harness compatible, i.e. they have a wide flared base by which to be secured. You should also keep in mind that the width of the dildo has to be smaller than the width of the harness's O ring to fit through it. Most O-rings are at least one and a quarter inch wide, but you should still always check the measurements. Some harnesses come with different sized O rings; these include the Vibrating velvet harness and the Corsette harness.
Weight is another factor that plays into the mix; if your harness isn't so sturdy you don't want to exacerbate the situation with a dildo that will sag.
Another consideration you should take into account, and the most important yet often overlooked, is that dildos that can work for the harness-wearer too. For example, some harnesses, such as the Butt & dildo harness, sport an interior butt plug lock-in system.
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Make sure you use somewhat soft and reasonably-sized dildos when embarking on an anal sexcapade. You can really stimulate any part you would normally during sex, from the prostate to the clitoris, as long as you have the right dildo, or even vibrator, and harness.
And lastly, features like shape, material and look are all up to you, so the possibilities are endless.

The Vac-u-lock system

Some harnesses, like the Ultra harness 2 and plug come with the Vac-u-lock® system from Doc Johnson® which fastens compatible dildos to the harness. Something as simple as having a solid conjoining piece between the strap-on and harness is one of the best ways to secure the dildo, and besides the benefits of control and leverage this allows, it also adds to the authenticity of your fantasy role playing by making the penis look like it's actually a part of your body. You can also purchase theVac-u-lock system separately as well. One thing you should keep in mind is that while this apparatus does help secure strap-ons, you will be limited to Vac-u-lock compatible dildos. There are, however, extensive lists of compatible harnesses and strap-ons in a wide range of varieties and prices.
The Vac-u-lock system

The Powerlock system

The patented Powerlock system does the same thing as the Vac-u-lock® and just as well, but the selection of compatible strap-ons is less varied. The Powelock harness with slimline cock comes ready with a strap-on as its name suggests that is fastened to the harness with a sturdy snap and lock mechanism.
The Powerlock system

The O ring

This is the piece that secures the dildo to the harness and sets the parameters for the width of the dong you can use. Generally, you won't have to worry about its construction, but if you plan on using large or heavy strap-ons you'll want an O ring that's made out of solid metal.
attachments
attachments
 In almost all harnesses the O-ring is attached via straps, and this construction allows you to use different sized O-rings and thus different sized dildos. One consideration to keep in mind is that a larger dildo means more sag and a less secure fit in the lesser quality harnesses. The Corsette harnessand the Vibrating velvet harness both come with three interchangeable and different sized O-rings.


Friday, January 30, 2015

Be The Fantasy, Role Play by Men for Women

OK guys, I know that most of us look at role play and think of our girl as a naughty nurse or a dirty flight attendant, But what if this time She came home to Flynn from her romantic novel. or even in my wife's case (I know i am not alone here) Leroy Jethro Gibbs. I can tell  you now from experience, not only did we have a blast with the entire role play, The sex was freaking amazing. OK now that I have your attention I will give a few details. I simply got a bottle of dye and went grey, put on a suit and a rough but loving demeanor, and set up a simple crime scene in our living room. Then when she came home I treated her as a witness that I had to interrogate, She was arrested, put in handcuffs, and I interrogated her about her relationship with the victim. I then used all methods at my disposal to retrieve the needed information from her. She was Very Very guilty and I was truly very happy to punish her, but that was not the point. Wait yes it was. 

Now I did not buy anything for this and I did not have to spend any money at all, I already had everything from prior events.
But if you don't have handcuffs you could change the story to fit what you do have or go all out and spend the money to make HER fantasy come true.
trust me fella's it is well worth the effort.
I will be trying a few more out in the future and have found it worth my while to secretly read a romance novel or two for ideas to use. 
I will be trying one tonight that doesn't involve bondage in any way. Its simply just the I am that guy you want to rape approach. 

We are going out on a date like we do every Thursday or Friday (married for 5 years and still have a spark to date), and every now and then I like to through a wrench in things to keep her guessing.
Today I will be dressed in a tweed suit with a bow-tie. I told her to meet me at the restaurant, I will reintroduce myself as "The Doctor". Yep you guessed it--Doctor Who fan and her exact words where and I quote "I would rape that man in the middle of the street just so there were witnesses."
So that said I am going to be meeting her at the Olive Garden and I will see if I can get witnesses or if I have to wait until we get behind closed doors. 

Also don't be afraid to role play as your fantasy, when you  where a kid you wanted to be an astronaut. So be an astronaut, or a cowboy, a race car driver. A rich Business Executive, What ever you want to be, and I will guarantee you both the experience of a life time.

Remember 3 things:
1- The only people who know what you and yours do for your sexual health is you and yours.
(just because we go to a restaurant dressed up doesn't mean its for sex. ever heard of costume parties)
2- If you don't learn and grow together, you will learn and grow separately.
3- Every single person has fantasy's, healthy people explore them safely. 

So that's My little take on that. don't forget to check out edenfantasy's.com for all your fun fantasy needs. Use code Z55 at checkout for 15% off your entire purchase.




How to choose a harness and strap-on that's right for you

How to choose a harness and strap-on that's right for you

There are three general types of harnesses - thong-style, two-strap and panty-style - and each one has its up and downs. Additional considerations you should take into account are the material, the security and stability of the fit, the size of the O-ring (that's the piece that secures the dildo to the harness and sets the parameters for the width of the dong you can use) and most importantly, which strap-on to choose.

Harness styles

  1. One-strap (thong-style:) this type of harness is built just like a G-string, i.e. a single
    One-strap
    One-strap
     strap runs between the legs. This is a surprisingly stable design, and you want a harness that will support a dildo without sliding around; a strap-on that stays in place looks more realistic and that authenticity will enhance your role playing all the more. Many women also enjoy the friction that a strap running down the middle brings and will even wear them in every-day occasions. Some one-strap harnesses we recommend are the Bikini Harness and the Butt & dildo harness.
  2. Two-strap
    Two-strap
    Two-strap (jock strap-style:) two-strap harnesses are also quite stable, and the immediately apparent advantage is that having two straps that run down the crotch instead of one allows access to the genitals, and this allows both men and women to give and receive pleasure at the same time. A two-strap harness we recommend is the Heart harness.
  3. Panty-style (shorts harnesses:) these harnesses are the least secure, but arguably,
    Panty-style
    Panty-style
     and not without exception, sexier and more comfortable. The give and take, or catch 22, is that the tighter the shorts, the less stability they offer. What some people like about them is that they camouflage, or cover, the genitals, but you can achieve the same effect with any style harness by wearing a gaff underneath it. A panty-style harness we recommend is the Grrl shorts strap-on harness.
harnesses that can be worn around other parts of the bodyMiscellaneous harnesses: This category includes harnesses that can be worn around other parts of the body beside the waist and harnesses that allow you to use multiple strap-ons. The Lap dancer which is worn around the thigh and the tool chest which is worn around the chest are two of our favorite ways to use harnesses in different positions.  As for harnesses that use more than one dildo, these strap-ons can be used in a variety of ways to pleasure the strapper, the strapee or both. The high-quality leather Butt & dildo harness allows both a dildo and anal plug attachment, and the front-piece that fastens these two pieces is reversible so the two of you can take turns sharing the fun. Another multi-probe harness we recommend, the Vac-u-lock male set comes with an anal probe on the interior, a penis shaped dildo for the exterior and also has a second opening so that you can use your penis for double penetrations.

Harness materials

  1. Leather
    Leather
    Leather: as far as durability, quality and comfort are concerned, you can't beat leather; Its reputation in all acts B&D and S&M is well deserved, and the cost is generally proportional. That's because besides looking absolutely sexy, it also achieves a harness's two main objectives: it's comfortable and secure (as long as the fit is right.) In addition, it also molds to the shape of the wearer over time and has an organic feel. One easily surmountable obstacle leather products present is that they have to be hand washed, preferably with commercial toy cleaner or anti-bacterial soap. But big deal, right? Some leather harnesses we recommend are the Corsette harness and the Hardcore harness from Hustler.
  2. Nylon webbing: nylon harnesses are generally fastened with buckles (usually the
    Nylon
    Nylon
     more secure choice) or Velcro and have a high sex appeal potential - if you get the right one. SS69610 Nylon harnesses are generally rather inexpensive and the best bargain for your money. Some harnesses we think are sexy and will ignite the mood are the Brazilian harness and the Bare as you dare harness.
  3. Fabric
    Fabric
    Fabric: this is a relatively inexpensive material, and you'll usually get what you pay for; fabric harnesses generally rip more easily, but that doesn't necessarily mean they'll be less secure. A well fitting harness of any material will stay in place and won't slide around. Fabric's largest advantage is probably that it's washable, and that makes it hygienically superior. So if you find one you like, go for it.
  4. Latex, the cheapest of the three materials, feels almost like plastic, but soft 
    Latex
    Latex
    and stretchy, and is relatively secure assuming a good fitting harness. Of course it won't be as durable as a high-quality leather harness, but the compromise is minimal compared to the bargain. One of our most fun latex harnesses is the Wireless latex harness with slender penis - it comes with a six inch dong and a micro-vibrator you can slide anywhere along the shaft. Two drawbacks with latex harnesses are that you might have to replace them from time to time if you like it rough and you won't be able to use them if you're allergic to latex.

Sizing

Size lines
Two factors you should take into account when choosing a harness with the best fit for you are your waist size and whether you prefer to wear it lower or higher on your hips. A comfortable harness is crucial to your enjoyment and sexual satisfaction, and not all harnesses will fit you the way you like. Leather harnesses are generally adjustable to smaller waists sizes (up to 40-44") than those of other materials, and other harnesses can measure all the way up to 68". The Lover's super strap harness and silicone probe , for example, adjusts up to 64". In addition, your local tailor will be able to permanently customize many harnesses to your particular size.
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If you have a preference for how high or low to wear a harness make sure you get one with an adjustable crotch strap as well. Two such harnesses are the Heart harness and silicone dong set and the Butt & dildo harness. Different harness fits allow different uses of leverage, and that preference varies from person to person, but the most important thing is to have a secure fit.

Thursday, January 29, 2015

Buyer's Guide То Harnesses

Harness 101
What is a harness?
Buyer's Guide То Harnesses

Harness 101
What is a harness?

In short, dildo harnesses are devices designed to secure a dildo to the harness wearer to enable penetration, but as you will soon see, there are countless variations on the types of harnesses and ways to use them; so let’s get right into the reasons for and benefits of using a harness.
Advantages of using a harness

From exploring alternate personas to gender bending, a sturdy and reliable harness is a crucial companion for the ride, and one that’s entirely self-reliant; So whether you’d like to try getting bent over by your girlfriend for a change, if your man’s having a little trouble getting it up (to be perfectly frank) or if you’re declaring your independence from men altogether — the list of uses just goes on and on, but more on that later, — harnesses will prove a dependable "bedroom accessory" that can work independently of batteries and men, and all while leaving your hands free to do a little probing themselves... ;)
On top of that, many men and women prefer a harness mechanism when pleasuring their lover because using a strap-on dildo with their hips, as opposed to with their hands, gives them more leverage.
However, there are, as always, certain exceptions to the rules; some harnesses are designed specifically for men, and some harnesses, like the Vibrating harness kit, have a convenient control pack and do in fact use batteries. In fact, harnesses don’t even have to be worn around the waist; case in point: Heeldo strap-on harness is worn around the foot, and the advantage there is the thrill of trying out new positions and freeing your hands to please other important areas. So abandon whatever preconceived notions you might have about harnesses, because the only activities you can’t do with them are the ones you can’t think of.
Advantages of using a harness


Knowing the facts about harnesses before introducing them to your partner will help make them feel more comfortable about the idea.
The task of broaching the subject with your partner (if you’re a newcomer to strap-on play) and then finding a harness that you like (let alone one that’s comfortable and fits) can seem a little daunting. But you can relax; we’re going to tell you everything you need to know to get started with our comprehensive but straightforward guideline.
So let's get right into the "meat and potatoes:" choosing a harness that's right for you. Then we'll run the other bases - from introducing the idea to your partner and fantasy role play, to hygiene and safety issues. So find a seat and face the chalkboard - it's harnesses 101.
In short, dildo harnesses are devices designed to secure a dildo to the harness wearer to enable penetration, but as you will soon see, there are countless variations on the types of harnesses and ways to use them; so let’s get right into the reasons for and benefits of using a harness.
Advantages of using a harness

From exploring alternate personas to gender bending, a sturdy and reliable harness is a crucial companion for the ride, and one that’s entirely self-reliant; So whether you’d like to try getting bent over by your girlfriend for a change, if your man’s having a little trouble getting it up (to be perfectly frank) or if you’re declaring your independence from men altogether — the list of uses just goes on and on, but more on that later, — harnesses will prove a dependable "bedroom accessory" that can work independently of batteries and men, and all while leaving your hands free to do a little probing themselves... ;)
On top of that, many men and women prefer a harness mechanism when pleasuring their lover because using a strap-on dildo with their hips, as opposed to with their hands, gives them more leverage.
However, there are, as always, certain exceptions to the rules; some harnesses are designed specifically for men, and some harnesses, like the Vibrating harness kit, have a convenient control pack and do in fact use batteries. In fact, harnesses don’t even have to be worn around the waist; case in point: Heeldo strap-on harness is worn around the foot, and the advantage there is the thrill of trying out new positions and freeing your hands to please other important areas. So abandon whatever preconceived notions you might have about harnesses, because the only activities you can’t do with them are the ones you can’t think of.
Advantages of using a harness

Knowing the facts about harnesses before introducing them to your partner will help make them feel more comfortable about the idea.
The task of broaching the subject with your partner (if you’re a newcomer to strap-on play) and then finding a harness that you like (let alone one that’s comfortable and fits) can seem a little daunting. But you can relax; we’re going to tell you everything you need to know to get started with our comprehensive but straightforward guideline.

So let's get right into the "meat and potatoes:" choosing a harness that's right for you. Then we'll run the other bases - from introducing the idea to your partner and fantasy role play, to hygiene and safety issues. So find a seat and face the chalkboard - it's harnesses 101.


Now you can literally find every bit of this information at http://www.edenfantasys.com/
I can take no credit for what you have read above. What i can take credit for is trying to make sure that you have the information you want and need to make an informed choice for you and your partner.
I will continue this segment on harnesses for the rest of the week and would really enjoy your comments and feed back. 
Also if you have experience with any of my topics please feel free to comment.
If you want to see a specific topic then hit me up at anterojubcet@gmail.com or direct message me on twitter @anterojubcet
I look forward to hearing from you all. and as always--EXPLORE YOUR FETISH

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